Until very recently a lot of emphasis was given to the role of logical thinking, ability to learn efficiently, and memorize the material in determining the conventional Intelligence Quotient (IQ). Pundits and scholars of management and human behavior ignored the importance of emotions and the ability (intelligence) of handling the emotions in day-to-day life situations. Such a concept of Emotional intelligence was highlighted by Daniel Goleman in the book published during 1995.The concept of Emotional Quotient (EQ) is simply the index of emotional intelligence, that one has.
But What is Emotion? The term emotion has been derived from the Latin 'emover', which may be translated to move, to excite or to agitate. Today, the term emotion is used as an umbrella to any subjective experience. You use the term to express love, hate, attraction, aggression, or any other such powerful feeling. Most of the affairs of everyday life are tinged with feeling and emotion. Sorrow and joy, disappointment and love, dismay and hope– are the feelings we experience in the course of day or week. Without such feelings our life would be quite plain and dull. We remember with warm glow the pleasant moments we lived; we anticipate with pleasure our parties and dates. On the other hand when our emotions are so intense or out of our control (and too easily aroused), they can get us in frequent trouble. Emotions may also wrap our judgment, turn friends into enemies and make us miserable as we were sick with fever.
No matter how good and sharp you are in learning a particular subject and how well and efficiently you solve the problems (or make correct decisions) unless you have optimum control over your emotions (measured and indexed in terms of EQ), you will not be able to achieve the best possible results.
Some of you frequently face such a situation while you are involved in your studies facing the examinations. You may have good memory, deep understanding of the subject and despite your having spend good amount of time in the studies, you fail to recall a formula, some text or an equation– just because your mind is overflowing with unwanted emotions that your general intelligence is unable to handle. You need to have higher EQ also in order to be absolutely successful at the given task. You ought to train to control your emotions in such a way (improve your EQ) so as to your emotions do not cloud your basic general intelligence (i.e., IQ). Some people score very high on general intelligence test (e.g., 150 IQ) and yet they fail to receive the fruits in terms of success in their life. It may be simply because they lack certain kind of emotional maturity that is detrimental to their overall performance. True intelligence may be thought of as a combination of both EQ and IQ.
EQ has also been referred as true intelligence by some psychologists. It may also be seen as 'healthy development' of one's emotional intelligence. If one were born with high level of innate EI, and grew up in a family which provides him high EQ (in its environment), he is likely to do very well on an EI test as well as in his overall life. In other words it is the heredity and environment both that contribute towards overall True Intelligence of a person. You may also IMPROVE YOUR EQ by certain simple techniques far as the environmental contribution or role may be positively enhanced towards its development.
So friends, remember, it is not simply your abilities related to high IQ but also your abilities related to high EQ that determines your overall success in any field. In fact it is the combination of IQ and EQ that makes you successful in various activities of general life including your examinations and your work at job. It is not surprising, therefore, that many big companies and organizations are exposing their employees to different training programs that are essentially experiential in nature and claim to be helpful in improving the EQ of the participants. Such training programs are designed to improve the understanding of emotions, creating better insight in their participants to be able to deal more efficiently with day-to-day emotional situations at the job and in other social life situations are being sold for over millions of dollars through out the world and specially aimed at white collar jobs.
You may also improve your EQ by becoming more practical in your life and specially in your social relations. Keep on reminding yourself that you have higher goals to achieve and "no one can make you unhappy without your own consent". Avoid irrelevant information that is not useful in achieving your goal– simply ignore it. Relaxation and meditation may also prove to be useful to you. And over and above the conviction and meaningfulness of your desired goal will always help you to use your emotions in a fruitful way. Remember, the world and the relations are temporary and ever changing– don't let them overtake your vision and logic are linked to your higher goals. You will be more successful and happy than before.